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Reply #30 posted 09/07/18 12:14pm

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Bookmarking for later.

I'm in the mood for love...simply because your near me.
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Reply #31 posted 09/07/18 12:27pm

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I might have a disability myself.

I'm in the mood for love...simply because your near me.
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Reply #32 posted 09/07/18 1:54pm

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People don't hate you, they hate something different than what they conceive as norrmal.

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Reply #33 posted 09/09/18 9:22am

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I'm feeling low again. I have fallen ill and (now with regrets) decided to stay at my parents' house. Which means being with my sister and my father all day long and they both drive me to tears. Unfortunately, I cannot go out for too long, so the only way to escape is to stay in my bedroom.

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What's more, I missed a concert I had been looking forward to because of the illness and a couple of my friends have got married recently, but none of them invited me to the ceremony. I don't know, ut I'm feeling like I'm a bad, evil and disliked person after all.

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Reply #34 posted 09/09/18 10:13am

EmmaMcG

FullLipsDotNose said:

I'm feeling low again. I have fallen ill and (now with regrets) decided to stay at my parents' house. Which means being with my sister and my father all day long and they both drive me to tears. Unfortunately, I cannot go out for too long, so the only way to escape is to stay in my bedroom.


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What's more, I missed a concert I had been looking forward to because of the illness and a couple of my friends have got married recently, but none of them invited me to the ceremony. I don't know, ut I'm feeling like I'm a bad, evil and disliked person after all.



All you need to do is read back over this thread to see that that's not true.
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Reply #35 posted 09/09/18 11:18am

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EmmaMcG said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

I'm feeling low again. I have fallen ill and (now with regrets) decided to stay at my parents' house. Which means being with my sister and my father all day long and they both drive me to tears. Unfortunately, I cannot go out for too long, so the only way to escape is to stay in my bedroom.

-

What's more, I missed a concert I had been looking forward to because of the illness and a couple of my friends have got married recently, but none of them invited me to the ceremony. I don't know, ut I'm feeling like I'm a bad, evil and disliked person after all.

All you need to do is read back over this thread to see that that's not true.

I know you like me, but these are people I've known IRL for numerous years. And I don't know why they did that. Why would my RL friends leave me out for their weddings? Maybe there's something about me that cannot be seen online and that drives people away from me. Maybe I smell bad or whatever. Maybe I look bad on photos and they didn't want me on theirs. Maybe I leave every party too early (but I don't do that because I find them boring, I'm just exhausted after a few hours). Well, maybe they decided to not invite me because they thought I wouldn't make it, but I could actually be there for just a few hours and then disappear. I don't know, I just can't find any plausible explanation.

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Reply #36 posted 09/09/18 12:37pm

EmmaMcG

FullLipsDotNose said:



EmmaMcG said:


FullLipsDotNose said:

I'm feeling low again. I have fallen ill and (now with regrets) decided to stay at my parents' house. Which means being with my sister and my father all day long and they both drive me to tears. Unfortunately, I cannot go out for too long, so the only way to escape is to stay in my bedroom.


-


What's more, I missed a concert I had been looking forward to because of the illness and a couple of my friends have got married recently, but none of them invited me to the ceremony. I don't know, ut I'm feeling like I'm a bad, evil and disliked person after all.



All you need to do is read back over this thread to see that that's not true.

I know you like me, but these are people I've known IRL for numerous years. And I don't know why they did that. Why would my RL friends leave me out for their weddings? Maybe there's something about me that cannot be seen online and that drives people away from me. Maybe I smell bad or whatever. Maybe I look bad on photos and they didn't want me on theirs. Maybe I leave every party too early (but I don't do that because I find them boring, I'm just exhausted after a few hours). Well, maybe they decided to not invite me because they thought I wouldn't make it, but I could actually be there for just a few hours and then disappear. I don't know, I just can't find any plausible explanation.



I suppose you could always ask why you weren't invited. It might not be a personal thing. You'll probably find that you're not the only friend of theirs who wasn't invited.

I'll be getting married early next year so if you're available, you can come to my wedding!
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Reply #37 posted 09/09/18 12:45pm

luvsexy4all

dont we all have a disability ..with the obsession with that guy that died

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Reply #38 posted 09/09/18 2:22pm

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luvsexy4all said:

dont we all have a disability ..with the obsession with that guy that died

I was taught at school that illnesses and disabilities are actually social constructs. If some conditions are a problem, they are called an illness or a disability. For example, no one considered cellulite an illness until 1960s. Only some people can move joints in both directions, but people who cannot are not considered disabled. However, autistic people are considered disabled. People who are born with less or more than two hands are considered disabled as well. And the reason is that if you are born this way, you will have a harder life. Yes, but you will have a harder life because the society will not accept you the way you are. We make provisions for people who don't have flexible joints or that throw up when they see carcasses, but we don't make provisions for people who cannot walk or who throw up when they see certain food textures (my case).

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Reply #39 posted 09/09/18 2:23pm

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EmmaMcG said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

I know you like me, but these are people I've known IRL for numerous years. And I don't know why they did that. Why would my RL friends leave me out for their weddings? Maybe there's something about me that cannot be seen online and that drives people away from me. Maybe I smell bad or whatever. Maybe I look bad on photos and they didn't want me on theirs. Maybe I leave every party too early (but I don't do that because I find them boring, I'm just exhausted after a few hours). Well, maybe they decided to not invite me because they thought I wouldn't make it, but I could actually be there for just a few hours and then disappear. I don't know, I just can't find any plausible explanation.

I suppose you could always ask why you weren't invited. It might not be a personal thing. You'll probably find that you're not the only friend of theirs who wasn't invited. I'll be getting married early next year so if you're available, you can come to my wedding!

AFAIK at least another friend of ours wasn't invited even though she was the bride's roommate shrug

Thanks for the invitation though smile

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Reply #40 posted 09/09/18 2:35pm

EmmaMcG

FullLipsDotNose said:



EmmaMcG said:


FullLipsDotNose said:


I know you like me, but these are people I've known IRL for numerous years. And I don't know why they did that. Why would my RL friends leave me out for their weddings? Maybe there's something about me that cannot be seen online and that drives people away from me. Maybe I smell bad or whatever. Maybe I look bad on photos and they didn't want me on theirs. Maybe I leave every party too early (but I don't do that because I find them boring, I'm just exhausted after a few hours). Well, maybe they decided to not invite me because they thought I wouldn't make it, but I could actually be there for just a few hours and then disappear. I don't know, I just can't find any plausible explanation.



I suppose you could always ask why you weren't invited. It might not be a personal thing. You'll probably find that you're not the only friend of theirs who wasn't invited. I'll be getting married early next year so if you're available, you can come to my wedding!

AFAIK at least another friend of ours wasn't invited even though she was the bride's roommate shrug



Thanks for the invitation though smile



Well there you go. If the bride's roommate wasn't even invited then it wasn't anything personal that you weren't invited.

No problem. At this rate, it's going to be the world's smallest wedding. My sisters, my brother, my cousin and my ex are the only ones who's actually going. And you, of course. And my husband-to-be hasn't even got a best man confused
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Reply #41 posted 09/09/18 7:35pm

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My mom once told me 'you can never rely on someone else to make you happy'. This is solid advice. You have to love yourself first. You are special and unique and you need to start loving yourself for all that makes you YOU... because there is only one. Take care of yourself first and you will get stronger to cope with the negative feelings you feel from others. You are worthy of LOVE!
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Reply #42 posted 09/10/18 9:52am

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FullLipsDotNose said:

luvsexy4all said:

dont we all have a disability ..with the obsession with that guy that died

I was taught at school that illnesses and disabilities are actually social constructs. If some conditions are a problem, they are called an illness or a disability. For example, no one considered cellulite an illness until 1960s. Only some people can move joints in both directions, but people who cannot are not considered disabled. However, autistic people are considered disabled. People who are born with less or more than two hands are considered disabled as well. And the reason is that if you are born this way, you will have a harder life. Yes, but you will have a harder life because the society will not accept you the way you are. We make provisions for people who don't have flexible joints or that throw up when they see carcasses, but we don't make provisions for people who cannot walk or who throw up when they see certain food textures (my case).


Literally no one thinks cellulite is an illness. lol

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Reply #43 posted 09/10/18 11:49am

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Genesia said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

I was taught at school that illnesses and disabilities are actually social constructs. If some conditions are a problem, they are called an illness or a disability. For example, no one considered cellulite an illness until 1960s. Only some people can move joints in both directions, but people who cannot are not considered disabled. However, autistic people are considered disabled. People who are born with less or more than two hands are considered disabled as well. And the reason is that if you are born this way, you will have a harder life. Yes, but you will have a harder life because the society will not accept you the way you are. We make provisions for people who don't have flexible joints or that throw up when they see carcasses, but we don't make provisions for people who cannot walk or who throw up when they see certain food textures (my case).


Literally no one thinks cellulite is an illness. lol

Have you ever read a women's magazine? eek

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Reply #44 posted 09/10/18 12:27pm

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FullLipsDotNose said:

Genesia said:


Literally no one thinks cellulite is an illness. lol

Have you ever read a women's magazine? eek


Ohhhhh...I'm sorry. I didn't realize you were talking about the stupids.

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Reply #45 posted 09/10/18 1:07pm

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I had a weak day today because I was told off by my father. I don't want to talk about it, but he basically demands me to do things I cannot do because of my autism. Like, I can't do chores. Not because I wouldn't want to, but because no matter how hard I try, the floor is never clean, the clothes are never neatly ironed, etc. When I started living on my own, I actually gave up trying to make my place nice. Obviously, I'm sometimes sad because my flat is not as beautiful as others', but I don't have money for cleaning staff.

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Reply #46 posted 09/14/18 10:41am

luvsexy4all

at least U got a good reason to hate THEM

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Reply #47 posted 09/14/18 12:03pm

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luvsexy4all said:

at least U got a good reason to hate THEM


To return hate is to be no better than the person extolling hate as a virtue. You are supposed to rise above your raising, to learn from parents and family's mistakes and do better. To "have a reason to hate them" is insane and aborts any growth as a human being. That's some Klan shit (as an example; not comparing anyone to them). It's reductive and basic.

If Prince taught love, that's all the OP needs to remember - maneuver in love, even if that means distancing themselves from those that seek to do them harm, rather surrounding himself with those that love and support them.

This experience will cover courtship, sex, commitment, fetishes, loneliness, vindication, love, and hate.
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Reply #48 posted 09/14/18 8:11pm

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Sending FullLipsDotNose some love heart hug rose

Miss my wife Julita rose
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Reply #49 posted 09/15/18 12:11pm

luvsexy4all

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luvsexy4all said:

at least U got a good reason to hate THEM


To return hate is to be no better than the person extolling hate as a virtue. You are supposed to rise above your raising, to learn from parents and family's mistakes and do better. To "have a reason to hate them" is insane and aborts any growth as a human being. That's some Klan shit (as an example; not comparing anyone to them). It's reductive and basic.

If Prince taught love, that's all the OP needs to remember - maneuver in love, even if that means distancing themselves from those that seek to do them harm, rather surrounding himself with those that love and support them.

lose that hard-on u got for me

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